Do these terms offend you?
Because they don’t offend me. Quite the opposite in fact; they make me feel empowered.
I read a post entitled “We are not Sodding Mumpreneurs” by a great blogger ‘More Than Toast’ back in february, it’s taken me this long to final hit publish on a post I furiously scribbled down at the time.
The post in question was shared and hailed as gospel by another blogger that I really admire, and who I would describe as a ‘MumBoss’.
I couldn’t have disagreed more with their strong views on the subject. It really got me thinking about labels, and why, as Mothers the term ‘Mumpreueur’ or ‘Mum Boss’ should be a proud label to wear. I just couldn’t get my head around why these terms were being deemed as pitchforks to the feminist.
We should be proud that these labels are becoming so mainstream and this is why…
You see, if being a Mother is the most important job of all, and widely accepted as the hardest and most thankless of roles; Surely turning your dreams into a reality and earning cold hard cash alongside this seismic position of ‘Mum’ is something to shout about?
“I keep tiny humans alive, AND earn money , all on my terms because I’m running the show”
(Ok, so I don’t get to say that phrase just yet. I am working on it though…!)
It was also said that to assume us Mums run our business’ from their kitchen table is offensive. Really? That’s an offensive assumption?
I am not meaning to steam into Alice for writing this, I am just surprised that so many ‘Mum Bosses’ felt this way.
A business that can be run successfully from a kitchen table is anything but derogatory.
Many a brainwave has been hatched in far meeker circumstances. Facebook is the birth-child of a Fresher in their Uni digs for goodness sake – he didn’t even own a kitchen table! And what about that old saying ‘We came up with the idea on the back of a fag packet…’
So why do these affluent bloggers think it is insulting to assume that a Mum might have begun a start up and run a business from the kitchen table? I doubt you would rent office space just to brain storm some business ideas…
Surely if you can run a business from your kitchen table AND be there for your family you are, from where I’m sitting, 100% winning the game of life right now.
I saw an interview with the powerhouse that is Harriett Harman recently. Harriett was saying how, not surprisingly, tough it was to work in Westminster when she had very young children. To keep up with her male counterparts she had to compromise on seeing her children and family life. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to realise that to succeed in that environment something had to give- and it’s usually always the home front. She hopes to make up for her absence by being there more for her Grandchildren now.
She couldn’t have it all, let’s be honest – I don’t know anyone that does.
If the mould doesn’t fit, then break it.
-That’s exactly what these inspirational Mumpreneurs are doing.
It’s frustrating that there is still a long way to go until the playing fields are more evenly balanced in the workplace. Like it or not biology doesn’t give us much choice in the matter. We are the ones who have the ‘privilege’ of carrying our babies. We are the ones who grafted for years on a career only to see it all come to a grinding halt when the egg timer gives way to “PREGNANT”.
Some women would say we had the raw end of the deal…
But it all comes back to this: Why on earth should we be trying to hide our ‘Mum’ label’? Is the struggle for equality becoming so sterile, we have to drop any reference to our lives behind the front door in order to be taken seriously? Surely not…
I’ve said before that I want to wear my label front and centre, because that is who defines me. I am a mother first, and I am proud of that. I am also proud that I am beginning to get a career off the ground on my terms. And guess what – it’s from my kitchen table.
We live in a world that is allowing us all to be a little more creative, and work a little more remotely, there is a movement towards a more flexible way of working. The hugely inspirational Anna Whitehouse and her Flex Appeal movement are an inspiration and spreading positive vibes that us Mumas shouldn’t be put on the scrapheap just because we procreated.
If you can manage to be a Mumprenuer and do it for yourself, setting up your own business on YOUR terms, from scratch – all while your kids scream blue murder and utter 50,000 unreasonable demands all before 6am, then you lady, are a MUM Boss.
We are kicking legs from under the chairs of our often comfortable, complacent male counterparts. We are shaking things up through sheer drive, determination and the desire to have it all, on our terms.
So here’s to the kitchen table start up.
Here’s to those inspiring Mothers who are cooking up these innovative businesses and changing the face of society.
Here’s to the Mum Boss in us all.